Friday, 31 May 2013

Club economics

I mean it when I say that college ain't got nothin' on Goa.  This place is ridiculous.  I can't decide if I would describe it as the Mexico of India, the Hawaii of India, or the Amsterdam of India.  Maybe I'd roll all three into one. .

This post is not going to be long...mostly because I have to get some sleep.  A few experiences from the night that you will all appreciate...or at least that will give you an idea of how much fun I'm having :)

1. I put my finger in the tank where fish eat dead cells off people's feet as part of a pedicure.  Surprisingly, it tickled.

2. 200 guys in a club where there are 10 girls means that there is a serious imbalance of supply and demand.  I literally had a minimum of 10 guys trying to dance with me at once - a MINIMUM. Thank goodness for my flatmate Kevin who acted the part of bouncer for the most sketchy characters trying to grope me, Ami and Praneetha.

3. Vegetarian dishes continue to be delicious, even in Goa, where most dishes have some kind of meat.

4. Bollywood songs are amazing dance tracks, even if you have no clue what the lyrics are saying.

5. Dancing in the rain feels like the ultimate freedom, especially when you're with dear friends

6.  I don't speak French, even when a group of French Legionnaires are trying to hit on me.  Sorry dudes - je ne pas parle francais.

7.  Air conditioning is the best invention in the history of humanity.

8.  The hotel room with the lovely patio/balcony is almost always the room with the most mosquitoes.

Can't promise I'll make a post tomorrow morning - expect to be sleeping in and then hitting the beach.  Will send an update when I'm back in Mumbai - most likely...

Thursday, 30 May 2013

New habits

My time here in India has allowed me to change my routines and establish new habits that I've been meaning to practice for longer than I'd like to say.  The vegetarian diet is forcing me to try new foods, eat more vegetables (duh), and most importantly, pay more attention to the things that I'm eating.  My less intense work schedule here has allowed me to start working out regularly, sleeping normal hours, and develop my social life to the point where I almost have too many options!  (Side note: Coke Studio at Blue Frog last night was awesome - one band was an Indian Hootie & The Blowfish, the next was an Indian Dave Matthews Band, and the final was an Indian Earth Wind & Fire.  You should be jealous.)  It's a little sad that it took me getting to Mumbai to make these changes in my life, but at the same time I understand that it's a lot easier to make changes when your surroundings are new.  That's one of the reasons I love to travel so much - when I'm in a new location, I end up doing a lot more introspection and self evaluation than I do when I'm in my usual places doing my same old routine.  I still have plenty of time before I get back to Chicago, but I'm already brainstorming ways to make sure I keep these new habits going when I'm back...

Some behaviors that I'm picking up here are less intentional than the ones I described above, however.  These are India-specific quirks that I've adopted without even realizing it.  One of these is the omnipresent Indian head bobble.  For those of you who don't know what I'm talking about, there is a gesture here that involves a person shaking their head from side to side.  Instead of turning your neck to shake your head "no" like we do in the states, this is closer to being like a bobblehead doll, where the neck doesn't turn but the head still bobbles.  The meaning of this gesture is ambiguous, but usually means something along the lines of "yes" or "I understand."  Sometimes it's dismissive - as in "yes I already understand what you're saying so shut up already."  Sometimes the gesture serves as positive reinforcement - similar to someone nodding along as the other person is saying something they agree with.  On other occasions, it just signals that the conversation is over.  Only this week, I realized that I've started doing my own head bobble along with everyone else!  I'm not sure why this happened - maybe it's part of some Darwinian programming that makes me mimic the behavior of others around me.  It's more likely that I've started doing it as a way of communicating non verbally to compensate for the fact that I don't speak Hindi and am not always able to clearly provide verbal cues.  Either way, I hope you will all forgive me if I do some head bobbles in front of you in the months after I get home - I'm sure it will go away with time :)

Another new habit I picked up will meet with less understanding in the states, however.  I've started interrupting people!  Before you start thinking that I'm becoming a rude person, let me explain.  There is a different cadence to conversations that happens over here.  People will speak more forcefully than they do in the states about topics that don't necessarily require forceful communication.  After all, if we're talking about where we're going to dinner tonight, it's not like it requires raised voices or heated debate.  But in some cases, I've noticed that people will keep talking and talking until someone interrupts them.  Instead of staying their ground and continuing to talk anyway, most of the time the person will allow the interruption to serve as the end of what they were saying, and they let the next person speak.  This happens more with some people than others - it's not ubiquitous here, but it certainly is a more common way of communicating than what I'm used to.  My manager is one person with whom I have to use this tactic - he will keep talking and talking to the point where he's just repeating something he said 2 seconds ago.  I have to interrupt him or else the calls would go on for hours!  I try to be polite about my interruptions, but my western sensibilities make me feel uncomfortable with it.  This is definitely something that I'm going to have to watch about myself when I get back home...

The last new behavior I've noticed recently is that I've become more comfortable with sharing certain types of personal information.  There are some topics of conversation here that would be considered taboo in the states that are just normal here.  Asking someone their age is an example - people don't bat an eye about asking others this question.  People are similarly less cautious about asking for academic information - it's not considered rude to ask someone what their GPA or GMAT score was.  One of our colleagues even asked Ami to send all of her business school essays.  These essays can be very personal things - I've never requested any from another person!  Just this week, one of my drivers here asked me what my salary is.  I was totally shocked and gave him a lame answer like "oh I don't know the conversion into rupees."  I'm not going to tell this guy how much I make!  Anyway, these types of questions are just normal here (although some of my Indian friends even agree that salary information doesn't have to be shared).  It was only yesterday that I noticed that I've picked up this behavior.  A future Booth classmate of mine posted to our Facebook group that there is an invite-only Booth event for prospective students in Mumbai, and if we message him then he can probably get an invitation for any of our friends or colleagues.  I contacted him with my friend Priyanka's name and email address, asking him to get her an invitation.  He responded saying sure, but that he needs information about her academic and educational background to send through to the admissions director when he submits the request.  Instead of reacting like I would in the states (e.g. telling him the name of the college she went to and the name of her current employer and title), I take a more Indian approach and give him her critical stats in addition to the basic information.  She had sent me her CV, so I had all of this information at my fingertips and wanted to make sure that she got an invite.  My reason for providing this information is that I assumed that the admissions director wanted to make sure that the candidates were in the right stratosphere for applying before they would be given an application.  My future classmate replies by saying thanks, but that was way more information than he needed.  Whoops.  My bad.  Turns out the admissions director just wants an idea of the demographics of the people who will be coming to the event.  When did I become a person who overshares???  Maybe it's the blogging...I'm becoming more comfortable with blindly sharing personal information over the internet.  Sure, that's as good an excuse as any.

Wednesday, 29 May 2013

Desi dating

Sometime last weekend, I decided to take my adventures here to the next level.  No, I'm not going bungee jumping or skydiving (or at least not yet), but I did decide to see what the dating scene here is like.  Before anyone freaks out (or Chris Kohler starts going around telling everyone that he was right and that I'm going to come back married) - I have already promised my mom that I will not fall in love here and move to the other side of the world for a guy (again).  This is an experiment - just one more way that I'm trying to get the most out of my experiences here.  After all, what better way to get to know a culture than to date people within it?

I have a few notions about how dating is going to be different here than in the US, although they are all founded in stereotypes rather than fact.  Will the men be more egotistical, macho, and possibly misogynistic?  Will they expect me to be a docile, obsequious, subservient female to their domineering male personalities?  Will they treat me as an equal?  Is my intellect and ambition an attractive quality here or the opposite?  How does me being white factor into men's views of me as a potential date?  I don't know the answers to these questions, and I'm guessing that they will vary along with each man I meet.  However, I think it's a worthwhile experiment to attempt during my short time here.  I'm not looking for the man of my dreams - instead I'm looking to learn more about male/female relationships in this culture.  Plus hopefully I'll have some fun along the way :)

My first challenge was in figuring out how to approach this - how to signal to the "market" that I'm available.  Of course there's the traditional way of meeting people that worked for Jen, Megan, and even me in the past - going out to bars/clubs and chatting up a stranger.  I'm of course open to meeting someone that way, but I've found that the men here aren't very forward in approaching me and talking to me without an introduction.  The ones that do approach me in these situations are not guys I would want to spend time with, so that leaves me with few viable options.  Another approach would be to meet someone through a friend - this is definitely a possibility, but I also don't want to risk messing up the friendships that I'm making by obviously hinting that I'm interested in dating one of them.  Maybe I'm just not smooth enough to make it work - but if any of my guy friends are interested in me as more than a friend, I hope they'll be the one to make their intentions known.  That leaves me with the nontraditional route.  I asked my friends whether dating sites were popular here, and they all responded that those sites are sketchy, that the quality of people you would meet on them is not high, so it's not worth your time.  I'm wondering if that has something to do with the presence of "matrimony" sites in this country - perhaps matrimony sites are the ones that the quality people go to when they're looking for a serious relationship, leaving the dating sites to be populated by people only looking for a hookup.  Interestingly enough, however, there is a class of websites that are used for dating here, even though their explicit mission/purpose does not revolve around romantic relationships.  These are sites designed for people to meet up with others who have common interests - such as the expat site I joined at Ami's suggestion last week, called InterNations.  This is an invite-only site to be used by expats.  The site arranges outings and events, and you can also send private messages to people asking to connect or meet up in a given city.  It turns out that people also use this site for meeting people to date!  Since I joined, I've been getting multiple messages daily from men interested in getting to know more about me, take me out to coffee, etc.  I've asked around, and apparently this is the best option around for internet-arranged interactions on the romantic scale.  I decided to dive right in and start replying to these men - we'll see what comes of it.

Last night I had my first date generated by InterNations.  I had emailed and chatted with the guy for a few days, and he seemed nice and normal enough, so I agreed to meet up with him for a drink.  I had no expectations coming into the date - or rather no idea of what to expect, so I went in with an open mind.  Surprisingly, the date went well!  He turned out to be a nice guy, and we have quite a bit in common (considering how different our backgrounds are).  He's an IIT grad, worked at P&G for a while before launching his own startup.  It's entirely possible that he could read this blog entry at some point, so I won't provide a detailed debrief.  If you're interested in hearing more, send me an email.

Anyway, I'm going to continue to explore the dating scene while I'm here.  I have no intention of getting myself into a serious relationship or even an exclusive one, but I figure it is a fun way to meet new people, see different parts of the city, learn something about the culture I'm in, and even learn something about myself.  For the worriers out there, please know that I am being safe and am not putting myself in a situation where I might get kidnapped, roofied, or worse.  Dating here isn't materially more dangerous or risky than dating in the states, so I will continue to do what I always do in terms of ensuring my safety.  If anything were to happen, you can all take comfort in knowing that Dad has Eric Prince's number on speed dial...(kidding...sort of).

 

Tuesday, 28 May 2013

Indian fashion

All of you who know me know that I'm not exactly a fashionista - I typically rely on my sisters for input when it comes to matching my socks, let alone pulling together an outfit.  With that in mind, please take this blog post with the appropriate grain/handful of salt.

Yesterday I went shopping at a proper mall here in Mumbai, the first time I've ventured outside the realm of street shopping and market haggling since I arrived here.  The primary purpose of the shopping trip was to find clothes for our upcoming weekend in Goa.  I realized recently that all of the clothing I had brought with me was not exactly beach friendly.  For example, I brought 6 dresses with me from the states.  4 of them are black, 1 is dark navy, and the 6th is a slightly lighter blue.  Seriously, Katie?  By comparison, the Indian women I see every day are dressed in colorful outfits - bright and bold with tassels and sequins.  My basic black wardrobe makes me look drab and even more conspicuous than I already am!  I can only imagine that the clothing worn to the beach in Goa is going to be even more bright and colorful, so I set out to (at least try to) blend in more.

The mall that we went to is called Phoenix Mills - it is a huge space with 3 separate "malls" in the entire complex.  Our first stop was a store called Global Desi - which is a popular women's fashion store, selling mostly traditional Indian garments (except no saris).  From what I can tell, it seems that saris are treated as a different class of women's clothing here - stores will exclusively sell saris, or in some cases they'll sell saris plus fabric that can be made into other types of clothing.  I have yet to come across a store that sells saris along with the range of other women's clothing, but that just may be due to my limited shopping experience here.  Anyway, Global Desi has a classic array of women's clothing options in local styles.  I still don't know the names of all of the different types of garments, but I'll give it my best shot to describe to you what it's like. 

From what I can tell, nearly all of the outfits here (aside from saris, as I mentioned) are some kind of top worn with leggings underneath.  I can't even describe to you how wonderful this concept is!  This is considered work appropriate clothing (at least in my office) - so I get to wear leggings to work all day!  They're so much more comfortable than the slacks or tailored skirts I normally wear.  The types of tops that go on top of these leggings all vary.  They are all long enough to come down to the knee or slightly above it - to wear leggings with anything shorter would be considered immodest.  Some of them are tunic-style tops with varying sleeve lengths (full, 3/4, short, sleeveless).  Others are more tailored and resemble dresses in the more Western sense of the term.  For example, my outfit today is a cotton dress in what I like to describe a "50's housewife" cut - it is fitted up until the waist and then has a full skirt with pleats.  Most clothes here have high necklines, which is fine with me.  The most striking feature of all of the clothing are the colors and the patterns that are used.  Nearly all articles of clothing have some kind of bright color, fun ethnic pattern, embroidery, fringe, ruffles, or similar embellishments.  As I mentioned before, people are wearing bold, bright colors - basic black is uncommon.

There are some other types of clothing as well, although most are a bit too ethnic for me to be able to pull them off.  Some of the outfits come with baggier legging/pants rather than the fitted leggings that westerners wear.  Think Princess Jasmine pants with less puffy-ness - maybe those are called harem pants?  There are some cute skirts that I've seen, too, which I'm guessing are worn alone rather than with leggings.  There are other types of traditional outfits that are sold too - matching sets of pants and dresses or long sheaths that correspond to different regions of the country.  Again, I don't know enough about them to try to attempt to wear them.  Plus, most of these outfits looks more old fashioned than the stuff that I'm wearing, and they usually are much more conservative as well - covering up nearly all exposed skin in baggier layers.  I'm trying to stick to my Indian-Western hybrid fashion - hoping that the pieces I buy here will get some use back home as well.

The mall itself was just like malls in any other part of the world.  There was fluorescent lighting, white granite flooring, escalators and food courts - all very similar to what you would find in a mall in Australia, the US, Thailand, or Paris.  There are quite a few western stores there too - French Connection, Lacoste, Thomas Pink, Gucci, Zara, Burberry, The Body Shop, and others.  Plus you have the western food chains that are present - CPK, TGI Fridays, Subway, Baskin Robbins, Trader Vic's.  The only clue to the mall's location can be found in a few stores that have their names printed in Hindi script as well as English.  Globalization at work!

The surplus of labor resources makes its way into the retail sector as much as it does into the other industries here.  Actually, I don't think I've mentioned this in a post yet, so forgive me for a brief digression from my shopping stories.  There are so many people here - so many bodies - that you can get almost anything done for you if you request it.  Restaurants, grocery stores, alcohol stores, tailors, pharmacies - they all deliver free of charge. You can get hairdressers, manicurists, yoga instructors, body waxing, masseuses, personal chefs, housekeepers, and more come directly to your house at no extra charge.  I'm sure there are services I could get done for pennies on the dollar here that I haven't even imagined yet.  Anyway, back to shopping.  In one department store, there were employees in nearly every section of the store.  Unlike in US stores where they're waiting around to get you a fitting room so they can collect a commission, these people are actively showing you garments that they think you would like or might fit you.    You show the slightest bit of interest in their section, and suddenly they're acting like your personal shopper, showing you everything that they have in your size.  Thankfully they don't follow you if you go to another section - otherwise I would have felt like the pied piper of pantaloons.  The weirdest thing about it is that I'm pretty sure these people don't make commission - they just care that much about you finding as much stuff to try on as possible!  This one poor employee kept trying to show me things, and she kept picking the ugliest stuff!  Her section had some cute stuff in it, but everything she showed me looked like someone had barfed on it (figuratively speaking of course).  I had to just walk away, leaving her waving several vomit-stained pieces of clothing at me as I retreated. 

On that note, happy Wednesday everyone!








 

Documentaries

Yesterday evening Ami, Kevin and I went to see two documentaries screened at a theater in Juhu.  It's actually the same theater where we had tried to go see a play, but had misjudged the time it would take to get there, and so arrived after the play had started.  On the last Monday of each month, this theater hosts documentary night, so we decided to go check it out.

We arrived at the theater with 20 minutes to spare this time, thank goodness.  The documentaries were not screened in the same facility as where the plays are performed - instead there is a building right next to it that we were directed into.  We climb up a few flights of stairs, and are stopped by two men at the top telling us that we were supposed to take our shoes off on the previous landing.  We apologize and go down to remove our shoes, but in the back of my mind I'm wondering what kind of theater requires its patrons to take their shoes off.  When we get upstairs, it becomes clear what the situation is: the documentaries are being screened in a small room, using a projector.  There are no chairs in the room, but instead the theater has laid down some blankets on which everyone will sit.  A new movie-going experience for me: picnic-style viewing!  I have to admit it wasn't the most comfortable cinematic experience, but it was worth it to see the films. The theater screened two films on this particular Monday.  I ended up learning a lot, since I knew absolutely nothing about the topics of both films prior to entering the theater. 

The first film was called "The Stitches Speak" or something to that effect in Hindi.  It was only a 12-minute film, but it was extraordinary for the style of animation that it used.  Let me explain.  The subject of the film was a group of textile artisans located in the state of Gujarat, which borders with Pakistan.  These artisans make narrative textiles - I'd compare them to tapestries - that show stories from their lives.  The stories are quite amazing, and the style of the art in which they tell their stories is distinctive, using embrodiery and applique to create these pieces of art. 

An example of a tapestry made by a Kutch artisan
 
The documentary took artwork made by these people and animated it - imagine the animals in the photo above walking, and hte people moving their arms and legs.  The script of the film came from interviews with the artisans where they were telling the stories that had inspired these pieces of art.  This group of artisans were living in what is now Pakistan, when a war between India and Pakistan in 1972 came to their village.  They decided to move to India, since India won the battle over their land.  They pack up everything they own, load it onto carts and camels, and cross the desert until they reach the Indian border.  There, the border police wouldn't let them in initially, but finally they settled them in a camp in the middle of the desert.  "Camp" is a generous term here - it really was just a spot in the desert with nothing there.  They arrive and set to work building homes and starting a life there.  After 8 years living in the camp, they are finally given permission to settle in permanent homes in the state of Gujarat, which is how they ended up there.  Since living in Gujarat, they've experienced a major earthquake which devastated their region and made their homes crumble to the ground, so they had to start from scratch again.  This community is really quite incredible, and they've become known for their unique style of embroidery and have built up a nonprofit organization through which they sell their work to help build their community. 
 
 
The second film was about something close to my heart - theater!  Specifically, it covered an industry that has developed in Assam, which is on the northeast side of India, called "mobile theater."  This industry was started in the 1960's by one guy who saw that the theater culture in the state of Assam was dying because people weren't willing to travel to cities to see a play.  He decided that instead he would build a theater troupe that traveled and brought the shows to the people of Assam.  He developed a stage that can be quickly set up and broken down, and put together a mobile theater troupe.  Now there are dozens of these troupes that travel around Assam performing every year.  Their season lasts 9 months per year, from September through May, and in that time period the average troupe will perform 200 shows in over 60 locations.  I can't even imagine the logistical nightmare that planning one of these seasons would entail.  What's even more incredible is how popular this industry is with the people of Assam.  They embrace the theater and flock in droves to see these shows!  The documentary gave the example of one town that hosts a festival with up to 6 stages at once in a weeklong period.  Out of the 16,000 people who live in the town, 12,000 will attend at least one show.  8,000 will return for a second show, and of those, nearly 3,000 will return for a third.  The shows are always playing to a packed house wherever they go, and the people have developed favorite actors and groups that they will return to see year after year. 
 
Apparently there are only a handful of playwrights living in Assam, so they are all incredibly in demand to write 10-50 new plays every year.  Every year!!!  They have resorted to using storylines from popular Hollywood movies to create this much material.  One of the most popular hits was Titanic - they showed clips of the show in the documentary, and the sets were pretty incredible. They also showed some clips from an adaptation of Jurassic Park.  Another common source of material are the classics - Shakespeare in particular.  These theater troupes are bringing Shakespeare to a group of people who don't own televisions, may not even know how to read!  And yet the people in these communities have become serious theater buffs (and critics), as they've grown up seeing these shows.  One actor told a story of a fruit vendor he met, who recognized him as an actor from the shows.  The vendor asks him a question about a play they had done a few years ago based on a historical king who had a stroke - "what side of the body was left paralyzed after his stroke?" The actor thought for a minute and remembered that his colleague who played the part of the king had shown the paralysis on the left side, so he responds accordingly.  The vendor then starts to argue with him - "No," he says, "the king lived for 14 months after his stroke, so if it was on his left side then his heart would not have been able to make him live that long."  The actor was stunned.  He told another story about a similar correction that had been brought to his attention by a fan - when an actor was signing a document on stage, he signed from left to right.  However, the language that would have been used for legal documents during the era in which the play was set would have been written from right to left, so the actor should have been writing from right to left.  Wow.
 

The documentary follows these theater groups as they do a single season.  These people are all crammed together on a bus, traveling for 3/4 of their lives.  Some of them fall in love and marry each other.  Some people are away from their families for 9 months out of the year and miss major life events.  One actor told a story of how he was given the message that his father had passed away while he was on stage.  He couldn't very well leave in the middle of the show, so he gave the message for his family to proceed with the cremation without him, and went back out there and gave his performance.  It's now well known within the troupe that his performance that night was one of his best and most emotional ones of his career.  The troupe has to deal with severe weather sometimes too - from monsoons to blizzards.  On one occasion, the show was scheduled for 6 pm, and a huge storm didn't stop until 4:30.  The stage and audience areas were wrecked with broken tree limbs, piles of sleet and snow.  The entire group of actors, crew members, and the entire audience banded together to clean up the area.  They didn't finish until late that night, and so the show was performed beginning at 1 am, but you wouldn't have known how late it was because they played to a full house. 

The lives of people in Assam have many dark and terrible influences - war, disease, poverty.  The documentary showed how theater can uplift a community and provide everything from education to comic relief in situations where both are desperately needed.  I'd recommend this documentary to anyone who is interested, but unfortunately it's not yet available online.  The directors of both documentaries were present at the screenings and held Q&As after the show.  The director of the Assam film (which he endearingly pronounced as "flim") seemed to be a very dedicated artist - he is willing to do whatever it takes to get his films made and tell the stories that he think need to be told.  On the business side of things, however, he seems completely lost.  He has no clue how to get the documentaries out into the world so that people can see them.  The documentary was completed in 2006, and he still is trying to figure out how to get it distributed so that people can actually hear the story that he is telling.  I felt bad for the guy - he needs some help with the non-artsy side of things.  He also showed us a trailer for his next film, which he's desperately looking for funding so that he can complete.  The topic is on a group of people living close to the border with China, who have been involved in skirmishes between India and China but who find solace by expressing themselves through music.  It's called "Guitars and Grenades" (I think) - looks like another interesting project. 

The next documentary night will show a US documentary on the rape of female soldiers in the US military.  Sounds uplifting!  I'll let you know if we end up going to that one too.

On a separate but related note, Happy Memorial Day to all, and happy birthday to my favorite monster, Tiki!


 

Monday, 27 May 2013

Resisting the temptation of bratwurst and barbacoa...

It's been 3 weeks now that I've gone without eating meat, and I'm doing surprisingly well.  Most of the dishes that I'm eating here taste fine without meat, and I feel like I'm getting enough protein through various legumes, cheese and nuts.  There have been a couple occasions where non-veg options on the menu looked enticing, but I haven't found it that hard to choose a veg option instead.  Until this weekend. 

Saturday night I went to an event at the Sofitel here, where they were streaming the European Cup soccer finals.  Two German teams were playing each other for the championship, and so the event was German themed - several German beers, potato salad, pretzel bread, and....sausages.  They had several different kinds, all of which smelled heavenly.  I went with a group of about 10 people, none of whom are vegetarians, so they were all enjoying the German meats as I stood by, drooling.  One of my friends - Ritesh - was very kind and kept checking to make sure I wasn't dying of hunger - he even went so far as to go get me a plate of veg-friendly foods that they were offering so that I wouldn't starve.  So sweet.  Anyway, I made it through the night without eating any meat, but I have to admit that I was very jealous of the people who were enjoying the various wursts.  Food cravings aside, the night was a total blast.  Given the time difference, the game didn't start until 12:15 am our time, but the event started at 10 pm to give people time to have some German fare before sitting down to enjoy the match.  There were quite a few expats there who I met - I even had a conversation in German with an Austrian guy who works for Siemens here!  He was impressed with my German-speaking ability, or at least he was nice enough to pretend that he was.  Given my current frustration with the fact that I don't understand the majority of conversations happening around me on a given day, since they're spoken in Hindi or some regional dialect, I was slightly proud to be able to show my Indian friends that I'm not completely inept when it comes to foreign languages.

The second round of temptation came in the form of Mexican food for dinner last night.  I had met this woman - Priyanka - at the Booth women's networking event a few weeks ago.  She and I had gotten along very well, so we had exchanged information and agreed to meet up for dinner in Bandra.  I told her to pick the restaurant, and she chose a place called Sancho's, which offers (relatively) authentic Mexican and Tex Mex food options.  The menu was extensive and offered all of the usual suspects, and my eyes kept drifting to the non-veg options.  Chicken fajitas, lamb barbacoa burrito, mmmmmm.  At most restaurants here, the veg option appears to be at least as attractive as the non-veg.  For example, I'm fine eating egg fried rice instead of chicken fried rice.  Paneer tikka masala is just as good as (if not better than) chicken tikka masala.  But a fajita just filled with peppers, onions, and the fixings just does not sound appealing.  I need the meat.  Still committed to my personal vegetarian challenge, I ordered vegetarian enchiladas, hoping that the sauce would allow me to forget that the dish was missing the best ingredient.  The frijoles in the enchiladas helped, and the vegetables turned out to be summer squash and zucchini, so I left satisfied.  Still, I should probably avoid going back to that restaurant because I'm not sure if my willpower could withstand another round of Tex Mex temptation...

On a side note, I really enjoyed my time with Priyanka - she's an amazing person.  She hasn't applied to business schools yet, so she's still a prospective student, but she has an interest in going into healthcare consulting, which I know a little something about.  We spent most of our time talking about the plight of the poor here in India, and what can be done about it.  She has a masters in public health from Boston University, and when she returned from living in the US, she said she had a really tough time adjusting to life here again because she was that much more aware of the tragic circumstances of people she passed on the street every day.  To compound that awareness, her first job after completing her masters was with an NGO here in Mumbai that works with the prostitute community in the slums.  She has some incredible stories from her time working there and I spent most of dinner quizzing her on women's rights and prostitution in India.

The NGO she worked with is focused on helping the children of these prostitutes.  They don't spend their efforts trying to get women to leave the business, since they know that there is really nowhere else that these women could earn a living, especially after they've been doing it for many years.  Instead their mission is to prevent second generation prostitution with the children of the prostitutes.  The prostitutes will be living in brothels, which they have been sold into through human trafficking.  There will be a small room with just enough space for 5 beds - maybe with curtains separating them.  The beds will be propped up on a few bricks, leaving space underneath.  The children of these women live underneath the beds.  That is their only living space.  And yes, they're underneath the beds while their mothers are servicing customers.  The NGO has started daycare centers in the red light districts that the mothers can bring their children to, so that they are not surrounded by prostitution all day.  The centers are still close enough that the mothers can visit their kids during the day or vice versa, but the kids have somewhere else to be aside from inside the brothel.  The NGO's other work involves helping these women start savings accounts.  These brothels will become completely flooded during the monsoon seasons, so the women have no way to earn a living.  If they don't have savings, some of them starve while the rains continue.  The NGO encourages these women to start saving, and they will act as a bank by collecting whatever spare change the women can afford at the end of each day.  Once the woman has deposited 1,000 rupees (about $20) with the NGO, the NGO will open a bank account in her name.  It's not much, but it helps the women save for (literally) a rainy day. 

These women are kept in some of the most horrendous circumstances imaginable.  A brothel will literally buy a woman from a pimp or human trafficker.  The woman will then be subjected to all kinds of horrible treatment, intended to get her to submit and be willing to act as a prostitute.  Women are beaten, raped, demeaned, imprisoned, and God knows what else is done to them.  Once they've been "broken" they start working.  The prostitute has to pay rent to the brothel for the bed that she uses.  On top of that, she owes a large sum of money to the brothel to make up for the fee that the madame paid from the pimp.  Prostitutes in this red light district are paid anywhere between 20 rupees to 500 rupees per customer.  In USD, that's between $0.40 and $10.  If a prostitute takes in 500 rupees in a day, she will pay out 100-120 in rent for the day plus maybe 200 rupees to pay down her debt of 100K-1M rupees, and what's left over she will use for food.  It takes years to pay down the debt to the brothel, and even once they have "earned" their freedom, the prostitutes are left with no life skills apart from the only trade they've ever known, so many of them just continue doing what they've always done.  If a woman tries to escape before she pays down her debt, she is hunted down and killed - maybe tortured.  They don't tolerate disobedience.  The prostitutes with the least amount of freedom are the minors - which here means anyone 14 and below.  The legal penalties for underage prostitution are very high here, so the brothels keep these girls under lock and key at all hours of the day.  The NGOs are not allowed to know where they are - only the high paying johns get to see these girls.  Some of these women (not the minors, but the adults) develop relationships with their customers and even end up saying that they're "married" to them (without a formal marriage ceremony). 

The majority of prostitutes here are either from India, Nepal or Bangladesh.  The Nepalese women are kept in the best conditions (relatively), since they are the fairest in skin color and fetch higher prices.  The Bangladeshi women are known for being willing to do the most "dangerous" sex acts.  Prices go higher for more "dangerous" activities - including not using a condom.  The HIV rates are high here, but apparently it varies by regional population.  Priyanka was telling me that most of the HIV-positive populations live in prostitution shacks located on India's major highways.  Another interesting fact that she told me is that a lot of Bangladeshi women are actually married back home, and their husbands send them to India to become prostitutes.  The money that they make is sent back to Bangladesh for a house to be built for their families, and the idea is that once the house is completed, they go back to Bangladesh to live with their families.  Unfortunately, in some of the worst cases of hypocrisy you can imagine, not all of the husbands accept their wives back once they've completed their duty, and they are shunned once they return.  Their husbands are despicable if you ask me.  The worst story that she told me, however, was about prostitution that takes place in Bangladesh itself.  Bangladesh is a very poor country - markedly poorer than India.  Therefore, in that culture, any woman who is buxom or plump is considered very beautiful because it means she's healthy and has had something to eat in the past few weeks.  Some madames in Bangladesh started giving pills to their girls - pills that are meant to be used on cows to make them lactate more.  These pills make the girls develop curves at an early age, so that 13 year-olds will look like 30 year-old women.  The pills make the girls retain water, so they end up looking plumper, which makes them "attractive" and drives a lot of business their way.  The pills have horrible side effects - including psychosis, and many of the women taking them end up committing suicide, but they still don't stop taking these pills.  Each pill costs less than 1 Bangladeshi taka (unit of currency), which is a fraction of a US cent.  I'm not sure what sick and twisted mind came up with the idea to start giving these pills to these women - it's a kind of evil that I just cannot fathom.

Hearing these stories makes me sick to my stomach, but at the same time I think it's important that I become aware of these things.  Just down the road from me here, I'm sure there are women who are being abused.  I don't see it and will probably never meet them, but it's happening.  If people like me turn a blind eye to these things and stay intentionally ignorant, then these women will never get help. Things will stay the same.  If I hear these things, then it's my duty to tell others (perhaps via a blog post), and then those others can similarly spread the word.  I'm not sure exactly how to fix the issue, but I know that pretending it doesn't exist is going to make things worse rather than better.  Priyanka has been talking with the NGO about volunteering with them - she's going to keep me posted if there's a way I can get involved.

The rest of the weekend has been pretty uneventful.  I slept in on Sunday - successfully this time!  It seems that the breakfast and cleaning crews got the message from Saturday that they should ignore me on weekend mornings.  The soccer game didn't end until 2 am or so, so it was a late night on Saturday.  The championship match for the India Premier League (cricket) took place last night - Mumbai won against Chennai.  I went out to a bar/restaurant with a group of friends to watch the cricket, and then we went dancing at another place to celebrate Mumbai's winning their first-ever IPL title.  There are whispers about the IPL match being fixed - in this country, with the corruption that's present everywhere, I wouldn't dismiss those rumors very quickly.  But who really knows?

Exploring the city: South Bombay edition

This is what I was afraid of - I would get behind on my blogging because I was having too much fun doing the things that I didn't take the time to write about them!  Anyway, sorry about the lapse - here we go with a weekend update.

Saturday morning I wanted to sleep in.  Badly.  Unfortunately with a service staff that comes to cook you breakfast and clean your apartment every day, it's hard to have the latitude to set your own schedule.  They seem to operate on the schedule that works for them, and haven't quite figured out that our schedule differs on the weekends from how it is on weekdays.  They rang the doorbell at the usual time, knocked on my door to tell me to get up for breakfast, and I tried to tell them through the door that I didn't want breakfast today.  It took about 3 times of repeating this process for the message to get through.  Then come the cleaning crew - again knocking on my door to clean my room.  They still didn't seem to get the message, so I gave up and got dressed.  Sigh - maybe next time.

Kevin and I decided to go to Elephanta Caves today.  I'm realizing that this is one of my last weekends in Mumbai, since I'm planning to travel pretty much every weekend going forward.  Elephanta is at least a half day trip, so I wanted to make sure to get there while I'm here.  We take a cab down to India Gate, where the ferries leave from, and are told by the guy who sells ferry tickets that the seas are too rough and so the ferries aren't going out any more today.  Booooooo.  He then tries to sell us on doing a city tour instead, and spends a lot of time telling us about this Jain festival that is happening today - apparently it only takes place once every four years, and it lasts for 3 days and today is the last day of the festival.  We are interested in what he's saying, but we don't want to pay the ridiculous price he's asking for the full city tour, so we decide to go find this festival on our own.  We go up to the cab line and start asking people to take us to the Jain temple.  Some people quote us exorbitantly high prices for what we know is going to be a relatively short cab ride (this is the problem with getting a cab outside one of the biggest tourist attractions in the city).  Finally we find a guy who agrees to take us by the meter, but he doesn't seem to know exactly where he's going.  The other cab drivers seem to give him directions, so off we go. 

As we're driving along, I notice that the meter is going up much faster than it should.  I notice that the kilometre measurement is off - it says we've gone 13 kilometres, when there's no way we've gone any more than 5.  Clearly the guy has tampered with his meter, which is why he was ok with taking us by meter when all the other cabbies wanted us to pay a set fee.  I mention this to Kevin, and he agrees that it's frustrating to be so obviously ripped off.  My friend Isha had given me advice about what to do in this situation - she said that you should call the guy out on it and ask him to charge you something reasonable.  If he disagrees, then you threaten to call the police and have them inspect his meter.  She said that usually works.  The driver pulls up to a temple, which doesn't at all resemble the photo that the tour guide had shown us of the temple with the festival.  We decide that it's not worth it to argue with this guy about the destination, so we'll just get out here.  The meter had gone up to about 300 rupees on a fare that should have cost less than 100, so I try Isha's tactic.  The driver's English was pretty bad, so it's difficult to exactly tell him what we're unhappy about (although I'm sure he knows).  Finally I enter the number for the police into my phone and show it to him with my finger on the call button.  As Isha predicted, he backed down and agreed to accept 120 rupees for the fare (all the while grumbling under his breath in Hindi - most likely words that a lady would not want to hear).  Kevin and I walk away happy - we may not have paid the most fair price, but at least we paid less than half of what his rigged meter would have charged us!

We enter the temple and are pretty sure that we're in the wrong place.  When we heard the word festival, we were expecting crowds of people, possibly food stalls, maybe a parade?  Instead this was a quiet affair - the temple had about 20 people in it total, and there was no fanfare aside from the religious proceedings inside the temple.  We are greeted by a board upon entry to the temple grounds with explicit rules for tourists and how we should behave ourselves in the temple.


Kevin and I want to be completely respectful of the Jain religion while we're in the temple and of course abide by all the rules.  Most of the rules have to do with cleanliness - you need to remove your shoes, can't bring food inside, and women on their periods are not allowed inside (!).  The one that gave us the most difficulty was the requirement that we not turn our backs to the idols when we're inside the temple.  There were statues on nearly all four walls of temple, so we were very confused about which ones were the idols and which ones we were allowed to turn our backs on, since we would have to have our backs to something!  We take our cues from the people inside the temple, who are giving homage to a row of statues at the front of the temple.


We assume that those statues are the idols, and so we make sure not to turn our backs to them.  We are not allowed inside the temple itself - instead we're only allowed to observe the proceedings from a porch surrounding the temple.  There are quite a few things going on inside.  As I mentioned, some people are going up to the statues and touching them.  Anyone who approaches the idols has their mouths covered with a kerchief.  I asked Ami why this is (she practices the Jain religion), and she told me that one of the main principles of Jainism is that people should not harm any living creatures, and since there are small insects and other small organisms that live in the air, it's proper to cover your mouth with cloth so that you don't breathe in any of these creatures and harm them.  Similarly people who practice the Jain religion aren't supposed to walk on the grass because you might hurt the creatures that live in the grass.  You have to be very very clean to approach the idols - the cleanest you could possibly be, which is why people cover their mouths when they're near the idols.  These people who are touching the idols have bathed at the temple and put on white garments that are exclusively used when you are this fresh and clean and are only to be worn inside the temple. 

Someone dressed appropriately to touch an idol
 


 
We also noticed a few of these red tables with rice on them that had been arranged in designs - you'll see two swastikas on the board here, and some other things which I don't know the names of.  Apparently this is some kind of form of prayer - I'm not sure, honestly.
 
 
 
The temple itself was very ornate - lots of paintings, sculptures, and other adornments.  There was a large bell hanging by one of the doors that people would ring as they exit the temple - again I'm not sure what the meaning is there. 
 
Exterior of the temple
 
 
Even after we visited the temple, Kevin and I still weren't sure if this was the place where the "festival" was occurring. There definitely were people there doing some kind of ritual, but I don't know if it was a regular service or part of a festival.  We tried asking the security guard, and he told us that we had "just missed" a crowd of over 100 people at the temple.  I'm not sure if he was being sarcastic or not.  Regardless, our internet browsers weren't working on our phones (stupid Indian cell phone networks), so we just decided to go see some other touristy sites in South Bombay and would try to figure out the Jain festival situation as we went along. 
 
Next stop was Victoria Terminus, a beautiful old train station built by the British during the colonial times here.  It's a beautiful building in Victorian Gothic style - it wouldn't look at all out of place in the middle of London.  It's also a UNESCO World Heritage Site.
 


 
 
The station is still operating as a main hub here - we were the only tourists that I saw - all other people were carrying suitcases and rushing to catch their trains.  Inside the terminal reminded me of other British train stations I'd been in.  In fact, if you kidnapped and blindfolded me, put me on a long plane ride, and took the blindfold off in the middle of the terminal here, I would believe you if you told me I was in Paddington station.  I suppose all the Indian people would tip me off, though, now that I think about it...
 
 
 
After Victoria Terminus, we went to Colaba market.  Colaba is a neighborhood I'd been hearing a lot about from people - it's the southernmost neighborhood in Mumbai, and is one of the oldest and most expat-friendly.  South Bombay is indeed a beautiful part of the city - during the British era, South Bombay was the entirety of Bombay, and all other neighborhoods were suburbs, which have since been incorporated into the city as it grew. There's clearly a lot of old money around South Bombay - big mansions and whatnot.  There was also quite a bit of international shops that we passed.  We counted 3 Nike stores alone on a single road!  I have no clue why this neighborhood needs so many Nike products, but apparently they do...
 
When we arrived in Colaba, the driver told us that he was dropping us at the market, but we couldn't see a proper market anywhere - it just looked like any other street.  We were starving at this point, so we decided to look for a restaurant and figure things out from there.  Not knowing where to go, we pick a direction and start walking, hoping that we'll run into a restaurant soon.  We first come across a coffee shop, but it only has light snacks, and we're in the mood for a proper meal.  It was REALLY hot out - it was in the 90's Fahrenheit, but with the humidity and the direct sunlight it felt like 105-110.  I feel like I'm melting to the pavement, and am on the verge of having a classic Smith-girl "I'm hungry" meltdown (haha, I'm punny) when we finally see a restaurant.  We walk inside - into the air conditioning - and it turns out to be more of a bar than a restaurant, but I don't care.  We order some yummy Indian food, and honestly I don't think I've ever been happier to see a chickpea.  Mmmmm chana masala.  After eating, we ask the waiter for directions to the market - it turns out we had walked in the exact opposite direction of where we should have gone, so we retrace our steps and find the marketplace, now refreshed and reinvigorated by our meal.
 
On the way, we ran across a few Indian sweet shops - there are quite a few very delicious sweet treats that I've come across so far, and Kevin is particularly interested in learning more about the sweets here (apparently one of his friends is a big fan and wants him to bring back some of his favorites).  Anyway, we stopped in to have a look - here's what the sweet counter looks like - they're all small sweets, about 1-3 bites each.  Each are packed with sugar and butter and who knows what else - crack?  Anyway, I limited myself to just one, even though Kevin wanted to get a variety box.
 
 
 
The market was pretty quiet at this time of day - probably due to the heat.  We wander around for a while, enjoying the sights and smells.  There are quite a few fruit and vegetable vendors with some interesting offerings.  I took a lot of photos so you can get a feel of what we were seeing...
 
 
 
 
 
 
We stopped at one of these vendors to get some mangoes.  I've mentioned the alphonso mangoes before, but this guy had four different types.  He told me the names of each, but I've already forgotten them.  Anyway, I bought one of each and will be taste testing my different mango types this week.  Yum yum :)  The guy weighed my mangoes together to determine a price, and I'm still not sure how it worked.  He put a weight marked 1 kg in with the mangoes on the scale, and then told me a price.  I pointed to the weight - asking if he could take it out, since I thought he was trying to charge me for more (even though I couldn't read the scale in the first place, and he hadn't advertised a price per kg), and so he takes the weight off, and then takes off the biggest mango and replaces it with an even bigger mango of the same variety.  I'm still not sure how the weighing process worked, but it was only about $1.40 for 4 mangoes, so I'm pretty sure I got a good deal (at least by my standards).
 

 
In addition to the fruit and veg stalls, there were some permanent shops in the marketplace too - most of them were jewelry shops, interestingly enough.  However, they all looked to be mostly gold jewelry and without a lot of variation in style, so I didn't end up going into any of the shops.  I did go into a fabric store and buy two saris, though!  Jen - we should skype so you can pick which one you want.  In addition to the stores, the market offered some sights that are becoming commonplace to me, but which I realize you may see as being very unique and foreign.  I snapped photos along the way so that you could see the streets of Mumbai through my eyes...
 
Women carrying heavy loads from the market
 
Someone's pet goats munching on grass outside of a woodworking shop
 
A gated religious area - not quite a temple, but it has a statue or idol of some kind, and people will offer gifts to it as they pass by
 
An apartment building with people's laundry hanging out to dry
 
Houses piled on top of each other, some in better conditions than others
 
An average alleyway...actually above average in terms of cleanliness
 
An entryway and tent that had been erected in an alley for some kind of party or event
 
Flower garlands decorating the entry to a home
 
After Colaba Market, Kevin and I decided to track down the Jain festival we had heard about.  I had been able to access Google on my phone (finally), and we had contacted Ami, who asked her aunt and uncle to give us directions to the temple.  They gave us the name and neighborhood of a temple, explaining that it was celebrating its 200-year anniversary this month.  That didn't sound exactly like what the tour guy at India Gate had told us, but we figured it was worth a shot. 
 
 
As we're driving, we see in the distance what looks like the temple that the tour guide had shown us in the photos.  Hooray - we're going to the right place!  Except...wait a minute, the cab driver just turned down a side street.  Maybe there are traffic issues he's trying to avoid?  Nope, we just keep driving further away from the temple we saw.  We try to ask him to turn around, but he keeps saying "just five minutes more, we're almost there.  Traffic is bad."  Or something to that effect.  Finally he stops and points down the street, saying the temple is that way.  We start to question him, saying that the place we wanted to go to was back in the direction we came from.  He doesn't understand, and stops a pedestrian to corroborate his story that the temple he has brought us to was in fact the one we had asked to go to.  It turns out he's right, and that Ami's family had steered us to yet another Jain temple.  This one, as it turns out, celebrated its 200th year last year, so there was nothing going on there today.  In fact they wouldn't let anyone in.  The temple itself was quite beautiful with elaborate marble carvings on the facade, so we snapped some pics and then set off to find the elusive temple from the photos at India Gate.
 

 
 
 
Kevin and I still don't know the name of the temple we seek, and so we decide to try to retrace the route that the cab took.  We're walking down the street in the stifling heat, stepping over cow poop, trash, and stray dogs.  After a few blocks we are confused about which way to turn, so we take our best guess (as a rule, I take the direction that I would choose and then go the opposite way).  We turn a corner, and there it is!  I'm pretty sure that a "hallelujah!" escaped my lips - I was that excited to have found this temple that we had been searching for all day.  It turns out to be much smaller than it had looked from a distance and is basically on top of a median in the middle of the street.  Once we reached the temple, it didn't look like it had hosted any kind of festival today.  No one else was around, and there were hardly any donations of flowers or rice or anything around there.  Plus it was locked.  I'm pretty sure that this Jain festival was either a fictional creation of the tour guide to sell tickets, or it was so small and took place at the first temple we went to.  Regardless, we still did get to see some other temples, so it wasn't a wasted day :)
 
The elusive temple from the photos (at least we think so...)
 
 
With that, we were both dehydrated and exhausted from an afternoon of running around South Bombay, so it was time to go home and regroup.    Yay for Bombay!

 








Friday, 24 May 2013

Of mosques and men

As much as I'm writing about going to clubs and bars, I want you all to know that I'm not spending my time here drinking beers and dancing on tables.  Well, not exclusively anyway.  I'm also trying to soak in some culture!  With that in mind, tonight I went to Haji Ali, a mosque that is a local landmark in Mumbai.  My flatmate Kevin and I did the trip to the mosque together. He arrived last weekend and is the third roommate in our apartment. He's from Orange County, CA and seems like a nice dude. The mosque is located on an islet off the coast of Worli (my 'hood), with a long concrete walkway from the shore to the building.  The walkway becomes submerged at high tide, so you have to know the right time of day to go so that you won't get swept out to sea.  Regardless, the result is that the mosque is a picturesque sight in Mumbai, and one of the city's most recognizable landmarks.



The walkway itself is very crowded, and I was expecting it to be intimidating.  I had read online about lines of beggars with illnesses, handicaps and deformities that we would have to walk past in order to get to the mosque.  The reality was much less scary than I had been anticipating.  Yes, there were beggars, but they weren't aggressive, and there was only the occasional amputee rather than the nightmarish descriptions I had read online.  Interestingly, a popular gimmick seemed to be beggars who would bring scales with them for people to weigh themselves.  Maybe most people here in India don't have access to a scale, so it is a service that people are willing to pay for?  I don't know.
 
 
The view from the walkway - Worli in the distance, fishing boats in the foreground
 
On top of the beggars, there were stalls and stands set up along the walkway - peddling anything from religious paintings to street food to fake designer wallets.  I even passed by a stand that had a hat with "I love Thailand" on it - which made me chuckle.  Another common item for sale are these flower garlands that are handmade daily.  We walked by the artisans making the garlands with bundles of fresh flowers - their fingers move so quickly!  All of these stands seem to generate a lot of trash, which explains the herd of goats that seem to subsist off the refuse and live on the rocky flats during low tide.  That does beg the question of where they go during high tide, but I'll leave that question unanswered.  I'm not talking about only one or two goats - there were at least ten that I passed along the way. 
 
Chickens, goats and children picking through the trash
 
Chillin' like a villain
 
 
Another remarkable part of the walk to the mosque are the other pilgrims (for lack of a better word).  There are a ton of people visiting this place - wikipedia says that 40,000 will visit every Friday and Saturday.  Given the crowds that we encountered, it's not difficult to believe that number to be accurate.  This made for great people-watching.  There were people from all walks of life - rich, poor, dressed in saris, burkas, western clothing, and countless other regional outfits.  All were united by a common purpose of wanting to visit this holy site - it's pretty amazing when you think about it.
 
These saris were particularly beautiful - I had to take a photo
 
One of the nice things that I've noticed about people here is that men are not shy about showing fraternal affection in public - holding hands or putting their arms around each other is a common occurrence.  This group of guys walking in front of us were walking along, laughing and holding hands most of the way to the mosque:
 




Quite a few people were walking on the rocks that are left exposed by the low tide.  I'm not sure why they were walking down there - there was a lot of trash down there as well, and there were signs posted everywhere about swimming not being allowed.  My best guess is that they were just taking a stroll by the water to enjoy the breeze? 


The mosque itself is a beautiful building - built sometime in the 15th century.  Its main draw - aside from the location - is that it houses the body of a saint from that time period (from whom the mosque takes its name).  This saint was a wealthy man who gave up all of his worldly possessions to follow Islam, and was blessed with the ability to perform miracles.  On a pilgrimage to Mecca, he died and asked his followers to put his casket into the sea.  The casket miraculously drifted back to Mumbai (which is where he was from), and the spot on which it landed on the Mumbai shoreline is where the mosque was built. 



Arriving at the entrance to the mosque, people were standing and taking photos on the stairs.  I decided that all you blog readers would probably appreciate a photo with me actually in it, so I asked Kevin to oblige me.  The resulting photo is actually pretty indicative of my time here - being very pale by comparison to the people around me.  If you look closely, you will notice that the guy in the bright blue plaid shirt is turning around to stare at me as he walks down the stairs.  I'm surprised he didn't trip and fall on his face.



Kevin and I reached the entrance to the sanctum where the tomb of the saint is kept, and everyone has to remove their shoes.  There's a huge pile of shoes, and people standing around were telling us to just throw ours on the pile.  This proposition posed two problems for me:  1. if I throw my shoes in the pile, how many pairs of mystery shoes am I going to have to dig through to find them again? and 2. remember the scene in Slumdog Millionaire where the kids steal people's shoes after they've removed them to enter the Taj Mahal?  Yeah, I do.  Kevin's and my solution to this issue was to remove our shoes and then put them into our bags.  Shouldn't be a problem, right?  No - the same people who were encouraging us to throw our shoes onto the pile watched us do this, and when we tried to go into the shoeless area, they start yelling at us that we're not allowed to carry our shoes into the area, even if they're enclosed in our bags.  One man starts yelling at me that God is inside that area, and God doesn't want to be near my shoes.  Anyway, I don't want to be disrespectful - though I don't quite understand the logic - so I throw my shoes next to the giant pile and enter into the area.  Please note that Kevin and I couldn't enter together, as the sexes are separated inside the mosque. 

The mosque itself is beautiful, but smaller than I had expected on the inside.  Photos weren't allowed inside, so I can't show you what it looked like.  The main focal point was the casket with the saint's remains.  Women were standing in the alcove from which you could view the saint, and they had their arms outstretched in prayer with tears running down their faces.  Others were sitting cross-legged on the floor, reading the Koran.  It's a very peaceful place.  An absurd divergence from the atmosphere was the prominently placed sign saying that "Visa and Mastercard are accepted for donations."  Actually, there were about 5 of those signs, all very conspicuous.  It definitely detracted from the spiritual atmosphere.  Another odd thing about the place was that the men's side of the observation area seemed to have access to the casket itself.  Some men were just approaching the relics and were touching the casket and picking up the cloths that were piled on top of it and kissing them.  The women were not allowed such freedom - we could only observe, not touch. 

On a final note, here's a photo of a mango I ate today.  It's mango season here, and they are DELICIOUS.  Mango season only lasts about a month, so we're here just at the right time.  They are a different type of mango than the ones we get in the states (which I assume are grown in Mexico or somewhere in Central America).  These are called alphonoso mangoes and are grown nearby.  Mmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmango.